Monday, October 31, 2016

#1578, Monday, October 31: Music appreciation


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Post 1758, Day 305 of 2016
- 2,131 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
My relationship with music, in general, has changed dramatically over time.

Major changes have coincided with the two main relationships I had.

When I met Nell, in 1983, I was still making a little music, but mostly I had become a listener, albeit a dedicated one. I went to concerts more than bars to hear music, but I still did both, and I was still a participant in the New York City music scene. In the course of that relationship, though, I gave up playing bass almost entirely .

After our separation, I found quite a lot of healing by returning to playing.

Which is what I was doing when I met Kathy.

In the aftermath of the crash of that relationship, I sold my high-end stereo and pretty much stopped listening to music. Even on the radio, I listened to news. Newly impoverished, I stopped going to concerts. I stopped playing, too.

And re-started after a little bit of recovery, and found, through playing, a new community and new happiness.

But I never got back to listening.

Now I think of myself as a producer of music, not so much a consumer. It isn't a competitive or commercial thing for me, so I don't worry about keeping up with the latest trends. I'm not interested in musical trends. What little new music I hear comes to me from Alex, and his taste is different than mine, just as his exposure is different - he listens for new sounds, I don't.

On the other hand, my favorite playing situation is with my band, and that is new music - it just isn't played anywhere else, and my relationship with it is as a producer, not as a listener. That music doesn't have a period, doesn't have a 'where was I when I first heard it' reference tag.

I have internalized my music, but accept that I need others to make it with and perform it for.

I have no interest in big concerts any more. It has been five years since I enjoyed myself at a big concert (Bruce Springsteen), but only a few years since I went to one. I also find festivals no longer do it for me.

Part of the reason is that most of my friends are musicians these days, and are, like me, more involved in playing music than listening to it. I would rather go out and hear them play at a local place, as a show of support and friendship, than hear the once- or now-famous play at the larger venues.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      202.0 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/28):             204.2 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     -   2.2 lbs.

Diet Comment
Towing the line - mostly - this weekend got my weight moving in the direction I wanted it to move. Goal: Sustain for the week.

Food Log
Breakfast
2:35pm:  A Quest bar.

Lunch
7:15pm:  Dal Maktanda - lentil and red bean curry - with steamed greens, chia seeds and hemp seeds over spaghetti squash.

Dinner 
12:10am:  London broil, cole slaw and a Quest bar.

Snack 
1:15am:  A big hunk of cheddar cheese. Uh-oh!

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 0 oz.;  Tea: 16 oz.;  Water: 80+ oz.

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Friday, October 28, 2016

#1757, Friday, October 28: The punishment for boredom


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Post 1757, Day 302 of 2016
- 2,128 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
No events to report. Nothing new, really.

I'm just hanging out. Reading a little. Playing bass a bit. Day-trading a bit during the week.

The results of my day trading activities have been mixed. I haven't really made or lost much money doing it. The majority of my trades have been losers, but I have one big win that has kept the whole thing profitable.

Ho-hum.

So I feel neither good nor bad.

I have good health, and if there's one thing that is making my life work (which I feel it is) that is it. I have recently seen friends dealing with serious health issues, and it makes me realize how much I have to be grateful for in that area.

I am not bored. In fact, I can never be bored, because then I think I would have to do housework.

The punishment for boredom is more of it.

I am, gratefully, not there yet.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      204.2 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/27):             203.2 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     +   1.0 lbs.

Diet Comment
This is actually a smaller gain than I expected. I am going to have to be a very good boy this weekend - I've had my cheat day (and I don't give myself regular cheat days any more).

Food Log
Breakfast
6:15pm:  Green protein smoothie with coconut milk, kefir, extra-large organic egg, chia gel, kale, whey powder (36g protein), hemp seeds, hemp protein (7g protein), raw organic cacao powder, celery, moringa leaf powder, cinnamon, coconut oil and stevia-inulin blend.

Lunch
10:00pm:  A Quest bar.


Dinner 
12:45am:  London broil, pork rinds and a Quest bar.

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 22 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 80+ oz. and a shot of Jameson's Irish whiskey 

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Thursday, October 27, 2016

#1756, Thursday, October 27: A day to forget


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Post 1756, Day 301 of 2016
- 2,127 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
I don't know what came over me, today. I gave myself a cheat day I didn't need and initially decided against.

I wasn't hungry all day. Not surprising since I ate a big meal between one-thirty and two AM. And I wasn't hungry when I went shopping, with the specific idea of getting something for my first meal of the day, at five-fifteen.

But I got a little hungry walking the aisles at BJs. And then I saw the sale price of Wholesome Medley, a nut-fruit-dark chocolate mix I like.

Game over. When I thought to myself, as I opened the giant bag in the car before driving home, I'll just have a little and make something on-plan when I get home, I didn't realize how I was fooling myself. Once I'd made the purchase, whatever came after was a joke.

On the way home, which takes about fifteen minutes, handful after handful, the salt and sweet taste, the poly-texture, was so stimulating - in that fifteen minutes I finished half the bag.

By the time I got the groceries put away, I was hungry again, too. I put the bag away, went out and played. Finished the bag at two AM.

Today is one to forget.

Hopefully, lesson learned, and I will spend tomorrow and the rest of the weekend grateful for the chance to improve.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      203.2 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/26):             202.0 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     +   1.2 lbs.

Diet Comment
This is a little mysterious - what I ate yesterday should not have pushed my weight up. Maybe it was the late-night booze and dinner. I don't know. Today, no help - I ate only one thing, I ate a lot of it, and it wasn't on-plan.

Food Log
Breakfast - Lunch - Dinner
6:15pm - 1:20am:  
Second Nature Wholesome Blend: peanuts, cashews, almonds, raisins, cranberries and dark chocolate.
Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 0 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 90+ oz. and a double shot of Jameson's Irish whiskey

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Wednesday, October 26, 2016

#1755, Wednesday, October 26: No comment


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Post 1755, Day 300 of 2016
- 2,126 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
Nothing today.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      202.0 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/25):             201.8 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     +   0.2 lbs.

Diet Comment
Basically, the same weight as yesterday, but it would have been a loss except for the nearly half-pound of cheese I ate at one in the morning. Oh, well, it's gone now.

Food Log
Breakfast
5:15pm, at Core Eatery:
Tuna poke salad with: Kale, cabbage, quinoa, cucumber, carrots, scallions, ginger,edamame, avocado, tuna poke, sesame seeds, almonds and miso-sesame dressing.
Lunch
8:00pm:  A Quest bar.


Dinner 
1:45am:  Chopped salad: London broil, feta cheese, kale, spinach, chard, cabbage and creamy balsamic vinaigrette.

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 12 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 56+ oz. and two shots of Jameson's Irish whiskey

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Tuesday, October 25, 2016

#1754, Tuesday, October 25: Future changes


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Post 1754, Day 299 of 2016
- 2,125 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
A good rehearsal with i am Fool tonight. Finally.

And another lesson in living - thinking about the future is the source of all anxiety, and nobody knows what the future holds.

Not that anything happened at (or before) rehearsal to make the lesson hit home. It was an ordinary practice, we got to some new material, went over some of the most recently added material. Everything was normal.

It is a weird sense of equilibrium - if you can call it that. It feels like it, but as if things have balanced out at a slightly different point - like getting your balance on uneven parallel bars.

Which, of course, is the other life lesson - things change. Nothing is permanent. Equilibrium is a constant balancing act, always maintained by change, and whose realization or manifestation is brief. Creating or realizing equilibrium is the job of a servo-system, achieved, tentatively, by constant correction.

Is this confirmation bias? Maybe. I am not immune to fallacy - but it seems like a reasonable representation of my Universe.

So, to recap: Everything changes, the future is not knowable. Perceived equilibrium (like measured equilibrium), is impermanent, and a point around which everything changes.

Change has been an ambivalent factor in my life - sometimes raising me, sometimes laying me low. But, like the cliche, it has been constant.

And, of course, that is the only way to consider the future - as my perception of a series of changes coming, about which I know nothing. On that basis, resistance is futile. However, since all the accumulated changes of my life have brought me right where I am, I'm pretty optimistic.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      201.8 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/24):             204.0 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     -   2.2 lbs.

Diet Comment
That oversized one-day loss is due to the transient nature of the weight gain - mostly due to one day's continuous eating a few days back. When you break the pattern, you get an oversized rebound (that seems to work both ways).

Food Log
Breakfast
3:30pm:  
Omelet with peppers, onion, greens, chia seeds, hemp seeds, feta and parmesan cheeses and bacon.
Lunch
8:00pm:  A Quest bar.


Dinner 
11:45pm:  A big hunk of Dubliner cheese and a Quest bar  

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 22 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 80+ oz. 

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Monday, October 24, 2016

#1753, Monday, October 24: Now's good


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Post 1753, Day 298 of 2016
- 2,124 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
I guess I'm not ready to execute my 'Plan B' right now. To a degree, I've been reacting to that idea for a month.

Today, I've gone a month without a gig. Also, the least playing I've done in six years.

I have said that when the music's over, I'd leave (that's plan B). And there were times in the past month when it has felt like that.

I do have some gigs in November. There's a set with i am Fool on the schedule - but the band hasn't played together one time since September 24 - not even a rehearsal. There are logistical conflicts at every turn - it's no one band member's fault.

I've been rehearsing with another band, but I'm not particularly happy that that band has never rehearsed with all members. And the jams haven't produced much interesting music. It hasn't been satisfying, but it also hasn't been terrible enough to pull the plug.

I don't see anything on the horizon, either.

But that is meaningless. I didn't foresee any aspect of my current situation coming. I didn't see a band on my horizon when I met i am Fool. I didn't see the VA job coming when that happened. I was just open to whatever, and I was non-specifically moving in that direction (playing in a band, looking for a job) when those things happened.

Worry about the future? Not me. I've dispelled that negative feeling, that anxiety, that comes when the future is not giving any clues or hints.

I've got too much to be grateful for right now, in the present.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      204.0 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/21):             201.2 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     +   3.8 lbs.

Diet Comment
The weight I put on over the weekend, for once, had less to do with what I ate than of how much. When you eat so much protein it triggers an insulin response similar to when you eat too many carbohydrates - the definition of too much protein - you undo the good of eating a low-carb diet. This is what happened Saturday. As I return to a normal diet, this temporary weight will come off.

Food Log
Breakfast
5:35pm:  Green protein smoothie with coconut milk, kefir, extra-large organic egg, chia gel, kale, whey powder (36g protein), hemp seeds, hemp protein (7g protein), raw organic cacao powder, celery, moringa leaf powder, cinnamon, coconut oil and stevia-inulin blend.

Lunch
8:00pm:  A Quest bar.


Dinner 
11:45pm:  Roast beef with Phillipe's hot mustard and a Quest bar  

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 0;  Coffee: 22 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 60+ oz. 

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Friday, October 21, 2016

#1752, Friday, October 21: Joe Jackson


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Post 1752, Day 295 of 2016
- 2,121 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
I almost no-commented today, but as I was getting ready to do that, I had a you-Tube Joe Jackson concert from 1980 playing, and I want to talk about some things that came to mind.

First of all, JJ rocks. I've been a fan from the first album. And I like the bass player, Graham Maby, almost as much. As a bass player, maybe even more. I remember thinking, back then, that there might be a tectonic shift, and all the great new bass players would be coming from England (thinking of Bruce Thomas, of Elvis Costello and the Attractions, who I discovered around the same time).

I saw Jackson in concert very early on, and the shows were great. Very edgy. The small bands were excellent (Graham!).

When he released Joe Jackson's Jumping Jive and I was over the moon. The songs, the arrangements, and the concert video from that album were my favorite things in 1982, and had a significant impact on my listening habits for years (it sent me back to the source material, mainly Louis Jordan). One of my all-time favorite albums.

The next time I saw him live was at a concert I took Nell to, at the Pier in New York City, the Summer of 1984. It remains, to this day, one of the best concerts I have ever seen, and was certainly the best performance by him that I have ever seen.

Intentional digression: Remember when I wrote yesterday about how distracted I was by the anniversary of Nell's death? Today's Daily Comment comes from that distraction, and the memory of that concert and a prompt on Facebook led me to here, now. End digression.

When he turned more to pop, after moving to NYC, his work became even better, as he incorporated more jazz and Latin into the mix.

The arrangements in his music always reflected his conservatory training - they were outstanding. And his lyrics were always intelligent, and darkly humorous.

I'm feeling very grateful for all the good memories, and the inspiration Joe Jackson brought to my life. Oh, yeah, for Graham Maby, too!

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      201.2 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/20):             201.2 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     -   0.0 lbs.

Diet Comment
Nice finish to the week, the slope of the line is moving in the right direction, and I don't see anything looming this weekend to screw me up.

Food Log
Breakfast
2:15pm:  Pepperoni, cole slaw and cottage cheese.

Lunch
5:05pm  A Quest bar.


Dinner 
8:45pm:  
Omelet with peppers, onion, greens, chia seeds, hemp seeds, feta and parmesan cheeses and bacon. Not shown: Salad with kale, spinach, chard, pepperoni and balsamic vinaigrette.
Snack
11:50pm  A Quest bar.


Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 22 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 98+ oz. 

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Thursday, October 20, 2016

#1751, Thursday, October 20: Distracted memorial


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Post 1751, Day 294 of 2016
- 2,120 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
Another weird, this-time-slightly-off day.

After Alex posted in Facebook that it was the 16th anniversary of Nell's death, I found it hard keep from getting distracted by very unfocused thoughts about her - in particular, the change in my life that was triggered by her passing.

The thoughts were not so much cinematic remembrances, as a reliving of some of the emotions I had, kind of like recalling a smell, but, after time has passed, more the smell made you feel than any technically accurate recall.

And so it was - I looked one way, started doing something, and was distracted by an emotional non-sequitur. A moment to identify the attached memory, then back, but to something else.

When my thoughts did turn to Nell - and they did, as happens with me, as they have for more than thirty years - I bounce back and forth between the early years of our relationship to the end of the marriage and, later, her death. I had known her for fourteen years at the time of her death - we were together only for the first six.

There's a lot of emotional peaks and valleys, over time. The flow of emotions I felt were happy-warm now, hurt and cold then.

The entire time Nell and I were together, I didn't play music. I listened, put together a few killer stereo systems and amassed a large collection of music, but I didn't play. Getting back to playing was the first healing thing I did for myself, and I didn't start playing again with that in mind at all.

But I digress.

This distraction took me out of the present, and although it made following any process to completion without interruption impossible, it didn't keep me from making some meals, going to the grocery, and voting, but made each of those simple things (driving, for instance) maximally inefficient. And tiring.

The thing that shifted my focus still seems difficult to focus on. It isn't elusive, it's that it is like that magnet game, where one circular magnet repulses another - you can't quite make them touch, although you can get close. You get exhausted from trying.

And maybe that's the takeaway - I became stressed over it, and every attempt to move it to a place where I could let it go felt like work accomplishing nothing. In the end, I gave up, and went inert, because I really felt too tired to go out. Eventually, I fell asleep watching TV, early.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      201.2 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/19):             202.0 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     -   0.8 lbs.

Diet Comment
The chart's looking great, I have completely recovered from the spike of my truncated vacation, and then some.

Food Log
Breakfast
5:15pm:  Pepperoni and cottage cheese.

Lunch
8:05pm  A Quest bar.


Dinner 
10:15pm:  Blueberry-kale protein smoothie with almond-coconut milk, kefir, extra-large organic egg, chia gel, kale, blueberries, whey powder (36g protein), hemp seeds, hemp protein (7g protein), raw organic cacao powder, celery, moringa leaf powder, cinnamon and stevia-inulin blend.

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 0 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 80+ oz. 

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Wednesday, October 19, 2016

#1750, Wednesday, October 20: The pain of past relationships


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Post 1750, Day 293 of 2016
- 2,119 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment
Somehow, I haven't given up the idea of relationships, but I'm not looking for one, either.

I have a good deal of fear when I think about being intimate. I am basically an introvert who doesn't mind being in crowds of people, and I get energized by performing.

I try to be open and honest at all times, but fail when it comes to establishing real intimate connections.

100% of all my past intimate relationships with women have failed on me disappointing their expectations in some regard. To them, it was me not stepping up. To me, it was their not accepting me for who I really was, as opposed to their 'ideal' of me.

But I take responsibility. I don't think I present a good picture of who I am when out in public. That's a trick I learned from my parents, I guess. Stop face-palming, Freud.

My parents presented a public version of themselves that was very different, and much more attractive, than what I saw at home.

I do the same. And it is attractive. I present as having things all together, which is pretty far from true, and as someone who is happy, which is pretty true.

But when that attraction gets me into potentially intimate circumstances, I deflect.

That's what letting your past override your present does. I have fear. I remember the pain. I feel my present circumstances are so good, I'm afraid to risk letting someone breach the walls of now.

This may be my biggest current failure, and I believe it is at the root of all my dissatisfactions.

I may or may not resolve it, but if that is the worst of my present condition, I have nothing but gratitude for being alive.

Food and Diet
Today's Weight:                      202.0 lbs.
Previous Weight (10/19):             202.8 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain:                     -   0.8 lbs.

Diet Comment
Breaking through the trend line - if I just maintain this weight a bit, the line moves back down. New goal: A flat or down-sloping trend line.

Food Log
Breakfast
5:15pm:  Eggs, chia and hemp seeds and dal tadka (lentil curry) over cauliflower.

Lunch
Skipped.


Dinner 
11:15pm:  Various fried veggies (birthday food at Shifty's).

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 1;  Coffee: 0 oz.;  Tea: 0 oz.;  Water: 72+ oz. and two shots of Jameson's Irish whiskey.

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