Post 2391
- 8 years and 324 days since I started this blog -
Daily Comment
I try to be tolerant. I am, but I have limits. I try to use them for personal growth.
One thing I have to work on is my unsympathetic view of people who behave in a way that is entitled - they assume their selfish behavior is acceptable because it's them.
I have known people who have earned the right to favorable treatment. A lot of them don't take it for granted, and, in fact, don't take advantage of it, preferring to be treated like everybody else.
Some do use the social perks they've earned, and acknowledge the effort they've made to get preferential treatment.
I'm particularly sensitive to this phenomenon when it comes to music.
By being a regular contributor, I have probably earned the right to play at a jam or open mic based on recognition. But I always sign up. I never insert myself into a set without being asked, or asking permission. And when I play on somebody else's set, I let them lead, unless I'm specifically asked to step out of a supportive position.
I know a very good bass player who does not sign up when he goes to a jam. He feels he would rather not play than sign up. He wants to be recognized as an elite player who will be invited to play wherever he goes.
imeWhile he is a nice guy, when it comes to his playing, he fractures himself in two parts, one the person, one the player, and insists that the player is entitled.
Another guy a guitarist and sometime bass player is similarly a nice guy. He's a good guitarist, but not as good as he thinks he is. I don't care for his bass playing, it sounds like a guitar player playing bass - not, in my opinion, a good thing.
I have never had a good time playing with him. He feels entitled to play on any set, any time. I watched him insert himself into a set, uninvited, without asking permission from the people playing. It seemed to me that the only person who wanted him to play was him.
Then, when he had to put down the guitar to make room for a bass player (who was using my bass) he made a big fuss. But when the bass player was finished, he grabbed my bass from him and sat in, again, uninvited, without asking if it was okay to play my bass.
When I took it from him, (after the song - I wouldn't make a scene in the middle of a set), I mentioned that it wasn't the house bass, he didn't even acknowledge it or thank me.
He did it again, when I was having a conversation and didn't see him pick it up. I tried to tell him I was leaving, but he was playing a song and I kid you not, the song went on for twenty minutes.
I was furious. I told him, don't ever play one of my basses without asking me first. Again, he just shrugged, handed me the bass and walked away.
I have to work on that. If nothing else, I have to ensure that I don't allow behavior like that to set me off. It's work I have to do. I know this guy, he is always like this, I dread when he shows up at any place where I am - but that's the way he is, I can't change him, I can only change myself.
So I'm grateful for the lesson and the chance to improve.
One thing I have to work on is my unsympathetic view of people who behave in a way that is entitled - they assume their selfish behavior is acceptable because it's them.
I have known people who have earned the right to favorable treatment. A lot of them don't take it for granted, and, in fact, don't take advantage of it, preferring to be treated like everybody else.
Some do use the social perks they've earned, and acknowledge the effort they've made to get preferential treatment.
I'm particularly sensitive to this phenomenon when it comes to music.
By being a regular contributor, I have probably earned the right to play at a jam or open mic based on recognition. But I always sign up. I never insert myself into a set without being asked, or asking permission. And when I play on somebody else's set, I let them lead, unless I'm specifically asked to step out of a supportive position.
I know a very good bass player who does not sign up when he goes to a jam. He feels he would rather not play than sign up. He wants to be recognized as an elite player who will be invited to play wherever he goes.
imeWhile he is a nice guy, when it comes to his playing, he fractures himself in two parts, one the person, one the player, and insists that the player is entitled.
Another guy a guitarist and sometime bass player is similarly a nice guy. He's a good guitarist, but not as good as he thinks he is. I don't care for his bass playing, it sounds like a guitar player playing bass - not, in my opinion, a good thing.
I have never had a good time playing with him. He feels entitled to play on any set, any time. I watched him insert himself into a set, uninvited, without asking permission from the people playing. It seemed to me that the only person who wanted him to play was him.
Then, when he had to put down the guitar to make room for a bass player (who was using my bass) he made a big fuss. But when the bass player was finished, he grabbed my bass from him and sat in, again, uninvited, without asking if it was okay to play my bass.
When I took it from him, (after the song - I wouldn't make a scene in the middle of a set), I mentioned that it wasn't the house bass, he didn't even acknowledge it or thank me.
He did it again, when I was having a conversation and didn't see him pick it up. I tried to tell him I was leaving, but he was playing a song and I kid you not, the song went on for twenty minutes.
I was furious. I told him, don't ever play one of my basses without asking me first. Again, he just shrugged, handed me the bass and walked away.
I have to work on that. If nothing else, I have to ensure that I don't allow behavior like that to set me off. It's work I have to do. I know this guy, he is always like this, I dread when he shows up at any place where I am - but that's the way he is, I can't change him, I can only change myself.
So I'm grateful for the lesson and the chance to improve.
Today's Weight: 196.3 lbs.
Previous Weight (11/19/19): 197.1 lbs.
Net Loss/Gain: - 0.8 lbs.
Diet Comment
Food Log
Breakfast
6:15pm:
Lunch
Skipped.
Dinner
1:35am:
Liquid Intake
6:15pm:
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| Avocado toast (organic avocado, Ezekiel 4:9 Sesame sprouted grains bread) with bacon; scrambled eggs with cheddar cheese, sauteed greens, peppers and onions on riced cauliflower. |
Skipped.
Dinner
1:35am:
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| Arugula, cabbage, chard, kale, spinach, roasted turkey breast, shaved parmesan cheese, walnuts and balsamic vinaigrette. Not shown: A Quest bar. |
Espressos: 2; Coffee: 22 oz.; Water: 78+ oz.; Jameson's Irish whiskey
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