#1492, Wednesday, August 19: Slack in friendships

 Please leave a comment if you visit my blog. Thank you! 

Post 1492, Day 231 of 2015
- 1,692 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment

I try not to make my friends pay a price for friendship (at least mine).

My friends, my 'true' friends, get it. They know I'm as easy-going as can be, but that occasionally, I'm distracted or busy or just in a bad mood, and make allowances.

I try not to force them to put up with any bullshit, and in return, I have few expectations of them, as friends. Racism and intolerance will put distance between us, and that's just about it.

Because of two things: First, I don't want to feel like I'm walking on eggs with my friends. I want to feel like they and I can say anything, no political correctness. That requires the predetermination (not really an analysis, just something that happens on the way to friendship) that there isn't blatant racism and intolerance; snarking doesn't count.

And, I want to be able to not take anything (from friends or not) 'personally'. I believe this to be true: You shouldn't take anything anybody does personally. Mainly because, again in my opinion, what people do isn't the result of thought and consideration about the relationship between the two of you; it is the result of largely subconscious and autonomic processes that have to do with nothing but a person's internals. The stuff they aren't aware of.

In other words, conscious/aware thoughts and behavior don't run the show - the id, not the ego, is in charge. Especially when things get emotional.

Interpersonal relationships aren't the pure intellectual/emotional/physical things we recognize. All those things that happen below one's consciousness are more involved than what we are conscious of recognizes.

That's my operating theory. That explains to me why there is so much miscommunication, and also why we don't understand, sometimes, why people treat us differently in different but similar encounters. Nobody sees the man behind the curtains pulling the levers.

By definition, that's what happens below our level of awareness.

And why friends have to give each other slack.

Food and Diet Section

Today's Weight:                   209.4 lbs

Previous Weight (8/18):           210.8 lbs

Day Net Loss/Gain:                - 1.4 lbs

Diet Comment

Continuing with high-protein, high-fat, low carb food and I'm under my pre-weekend weight in two days.

Food Log

Breakfast
A Quest Bar.

Lunch
Protein shake with almond-coconut milk, kefir, kale, extra-large organic egg, whey powder (36g protein), hemp seeds, hemp protein (7g protein), raw organic cacao powder, chia gel, moringa leaf powder, cinnamon, celery and stevia-inulin blend.

Dinner 
At Eskapes: 

A "BST Salad" with blackened salmon (BST is blackened bacon, spinach and tomato). Not shown: A couple of big chocolate chip cookies

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 2;  Coffee: 32 oz.; Water: 72+ oz. A shot of Jameson's Irish whiskey.

Please leave a comment if you visit my blog. Thank you!