#1526, Thursday, October 22: Making music under a cloud...

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Post 1526, Day 295 of 2015
- 1,756 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment

Last night a band member went off on me. He just unloaded with a list of complaints about me and shortcomings of mine he felt were negatives. As far as I can tell, none of his complaints were justified, and nothing I did to set him off (which was ask him for a little money he owed me from a past gig) justified the disrespect he showed me.

On the other hand, after immediately exiting so as not to continue the confrontation, I felt very badly.

At least I did until I remembered that other peoples' opinions of me are none of my business. The things he said were entirely and completely about his own struggles, not mine. Then, I was able to let go of my anger.

Almost immediately after, he texted me an apology.

It occurs to me that he might be better off finding a bass player who he didn't disrespect and treat as an adversary, but that is just my opinion, and I will keep it to myself. I cannot have any idea what is going on behind his anger. I still enjoy playing in the band, mostly, and the band is a good source of cash for me. It doesn't serve my interests to quit, although if the measures I take to not have a repeat of this uncomfortable situation don't work, I can't see it being in anyone's best interests to continue.

But I know enough not to be attached to that kind of situation. I've suffered from having that kind of attachment before (and probably will again).

I don't need any particular surroundings to enjoy making music, but since I favor ensemble playing, I do need other players. Luckily, there's an awesome local supply. And I've quit and been fired from enough bands to have desensitized me to that. Not being in this or that band, or in any band, has turned out not to be an impediment to playing and being happy.

I also know better than to make any predictions about how this will play out (pun intended). That would only make things worse.

Meanwhile, gigging tonight with the same guy, all went well, and it was a good and fun gig.

Music heals everything.

Food and Diet Section

Today's Weight:                   205.4 lbs

Previous Weight (10/21):          207.4 lbs

Day Net Loss/Gain:                - 2.0 lbs

Diet Comment

Better! Back on track.

Food Log

Breakfast
A Quest bar.

Lunch

Salmon salad (Wild Alaska pink salmon, celery, mayonnaise) on baby kale, baby spinach, chard and cole slaw mix.

Dinner
London broil, scrambled eggs, cole slaw.

Snack
A Quest bar.

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 2;  Coffee: 24 oz.;  Water: 68+ oz. A shot of Redbreast Irish whiskey.

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