#1516, Wednesday, October 7: Gossip: Boo-o-o

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Post 1516, Day 280 of 2015
- 1,741 days since I started this blog -

Daily Comment

Last night, an acquaintance expressed a raised-eyebrow opinion about the relationship between someone (who was present at the open mic) with someone else we both know. I replied that I didn't think it was any of my business, and wasn't interested in hearing any negativity about something I knew nothing about.

I will say this: I hate gossip.

Nobody has enough insight into anyone else to know why people do what they do. When we're talking about relationships (two or more other people), ignorance of the relationship dynamics and of the backgrounds of the people in it, and of the psychological internals, along with a host of other unknowns, should give anybody pause before making judgment on what is going on.

For that matter, I think judging other people and their actions isn't healthy behavior. Gossip is nothing more than trying to get someone else to agree with your opinion, your judgment, about something that isn't your concern.

Can there be anything healthy, productive, helpful, or useful about that?

I don't think so. So, when I get involved, I always try and redirect towards some non-judgmental view of the subject. Minimally, I pose an alternate, positive reason for whatever shade (is gossip ever positive?) is being thrown at a person.

I also make it clear that I don't want to discuss the qualities of people not present, except in a most positive way, and especially not say anything behind someone's back I wouldn't, or better, haven't said to their face.

This seems so obvious to me that I am surprised when I encounter a gossipy person. I admit that my knee-jerk response is to make a negative judgment about the person who does this - it takes me a minute to remember I don't know anything about the motivation that leads someone to do this.

It really does come down to not saying anything when you can't say something nice.

Food and Diet Section

Today's Weight:                   211.8 lbs

Previous Weight (10/6):           214.8 lbs

Day Net Loss/Gain:                - 3.0 lbs

Diet Comment

The weight came on quick, it's going away quick (almost 8 pounds in 3 days!).

Food Log

Breakfast
A Quest bar.

Lunch
At Core:

Chicken Cobb salad (shredded kale and romaine, grilled chicken, avocado, bacon, hard-cooked egg, broccoli, mushrooms and bleu cheese dressing).

Dinner 
At the Ridge:  Grilled chicken with rice pilaf and sautéed spinach (the best I've ever eaten) and a mixed salad with blue cheese and oil and vinegar.

Snack
Almond butter.

Liquid Intake
   Espressos: 3;  Coffee: 6 oz.;  Water: 92+ oz. A small glass of Pinot Noir; a shot of Jameson's.

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